User:Tennessee Ernie Ford

Tennessee Ernie Ford is the nom de web of the author of RPG guides. No relationship to the fantabulous gospel singer of the same name is intended or implied.

Mendel's departure
This is a bad thing. It's a bad thing for the wiki and a worse thing for the community.

Yeah, I've been a harsh critic of some of Mendel's actions. However, even after discounting his past contributions, Mendel's benefit and importance to the wiki is huge:
 * He is the only person who understands wikicode enough to challenge and suggest alternatives to our other wikifu expert. (Monopolies are always less efficient and effective than than healthy competition.)
 * He often has awesome ideas for presenting content and for dealing with disputes (yeah, he has some boneheaded ones, too — don't we all).
 * He almost always catalyzes awesomeness by others.

Worse than that is the way in which Mendel left. I don't agree with everything he posted about this (heck, perhaps not even with most). But: I do agree that other people have been allowed to behave inappropriately without consequence for too long.

Let's all make a greater effort to discuss ideas...and to avoid commenting on the people who express those ideas. Let's call people on poor behavior, politely... separate those discussions from those involving content.

Mendel's departure did not solve any of this wiki's problems; it only complicates them. At best, all it does is allow Mendel time for his head to heal, after repeatedly bashing against the same wall.

Personalization
Does someone actually have to say, "I guess you try to be a complete, motherfucking, holier-than-thou, male-chauvinist-piggish, Republican, Nazi asshole," before we consider it an attack? Since when is it okay to personalize a discussion without any consequences?

As such, it should be noted that it is advised, that you can simply...
Can't we just advise?

Listening vs negotiating
One practical definition of conversational listening is being willing to be changed by what someone else says. One description of effective aggressive salesmanship is being able to take what someone else says, in order to rephrase those ideas/concerns/goals as reasons that other party should agree to your own terms in the negotiation.

I have spent far too much of my brief stay on this planet engaged in what I hoped to be a conversation, but was really a negotiation; two cannot Tango if one is dancing the Fox Trot. So, going forward, when my interlocutor prefers responsive speechifying (my turn, their turn, my turn)...without a willingness to reevaluate their ideas...well, I'll just have to let them continue their monologue without me.

Unfortunately, a side effect of this will be leaving unchallenged claims, both outrageous and subtle, for which there is insufficient evidence, no consensus, and/or one/more alternative views. Some people will, wrongly, assume my tacit approval or endorsement. Still, life's too short to spend it arguing with someone who isn't willing to change their mind.

Current Haiku
 True. Also witty. The results of committee: Couplets out of rhyme.