Category talk:GuildWiki policy

I have no clue where to place this request, so I am placing it here. I am asking that all admins weigh in on this issue and to treat me in this matter as just another user. I would like the admins to please draw some lines on the issue of me and Tetris. I have no issues with him being on the Wiki and I never envisioned this as a me vs him thing, but...

If he does come back and continues to mock me and assault my person as he has most recently done in GuildWiki talk:Mission statement with this doozy:

''Nonetheless, at the end of the day I think Karlos is overreacting. '''As usual he is sitting on his high horse with his untouchable moral standards and "turning a moskito into an elephant" (German proverb). Even if he is basically right, he's got a way to say things (and to rub it in by strict insisting) that gets people up the wall.' It has happened to me and several other main contributors (not typical dumb trolls), so I can understand Gravewit's and Nunix' reaction to some degree.

Then I need to know what are the limits here.

While we all have our own personal opinions on the personality and character of others, I think we all agree that this sort of talk is unacceptable. I have asked him twice to be cordial, at the very least neutral, but he has continued to wave the "I'll diss you if I have to" flag which I completely fail to understand. Since when is such a diatribe "necessary"?

In any case, please advise on what are the limits in this conflict. Are there limits to what users can say to each other? Is there a penalty for assaulting a user's person? Your explanation is appreciated. --Karlos 05:57, 12 January 2006 (UTC)


 * I could now write a foot-long reply in my defense, throwing in lots of quotes (out of context) and try to turn the accusal away from me, back at Karlos. But that would only mean to "pour petrol into the fire" (another German proverb). I'll give it a day or two and let others comment first. I am very much looking forward to see what other contributors and especially admins think about the matter. -- 06:57, 12 January 2006 (UTC)


 * The issue looks to me like one person is overreacting to another person's perceived overreaction, which leads to another overreaction. This is fed from past issues and will likely continue to feed itself into the future onto other issues, until people learn to take things easy.
 * But overall, between the semi-regulars (regular as in those who frequent here, not as in they are "normal") here (or the once semi-regulars), there has been more incidents of heated issues between Karlos and others (as opposed to others vs others). Whether it's culture, personality, or some other factors, I think it is safe to say that given any particular style of writing and choice of wording might lead to greatly difference in perceived offensiveness when read by Karlos vs read by the statistical average semi-regulars here (again regular as in those who frequent this place, not as in they are "normal").  For example, had that bolded text employed by Tetris L been used against me in a discussion, I would not feel offended or felt that was an insult.  This does NOT mean Karlos should not have felt insulted and offended.  I am just pointing out that the same writing cam mean different things emotionally to different people.
 * I think Tetris's writing was inappropriate. On the other hand, I would not have considered it a personal insult upon individual integrity, even if it were used on me and it were completely false.  It was just the opinion of somebody based on some observation, that's all.
 * So, I want to make a general call to all the regulars here (including Tetris and Karlos): when dealing with other regulars here, pay attention to what kind of things have historically gotten them emotional, defensive, or aggressive, and avoid that type of writing. Even if you think it is unreasonable for the other party to get offended, or even IF you intend to offend the other party, realize that the wiki progresses better as a whole if you can soften things a little.  "The other party isn't being soft" isn't a good excuse for you to not soften up, because otherwise we'll have hard collisions all over the place. -PanSola 08:52, 12 January 2006 (UTC)


 * Both what pansola and what Tetris wrote reminds me of my own note to you on your user talk page (jan 8th). Tetris used more offensive terms, Pansola less offensive ones compared to me, but I think we all want to say that what works perfectly well for most of us, is a problem for you when you read it. --Xeeron 09:12, 12 January 2006 (UTC)


 * I do very much agree with what Xeeron states here. When reading articles and comments on this wiki it seems to me that one person is really wanting to rub his/her opinion into everyone else. Any discussion (be it constructive or offensive) led with this particular person is somehow going in circles. --Si Tacuisses 09:27, 12 January 2006 (UTC)


 * Eh, actually I was more thinking that it works both ways... And it doesn't always start from someone wrote something Karlos had a problem with.  It could be (had on many occasions been?) the other way around too (Karlos wrote something that unintentionally irked off someone else). -PanSola 10:06, 12 January 2006 (UTC)


 * Karlos: Ignore anything inflammatory that Tetris L says. Don't say anything inflammatory back, just move on with the discussion.


 * Tetris L: Ignore anything inflammatory that Karlos says. Don't say anything inflammatory back, just move on with the discussion.


 * Both of you: Since you both have professed a desire to have this adjudicated for you, instead of working it out amongst yourselves, I'm going to ban the next of you to say anything to anyone in any tone I consider less than polite. This has gone on long enough. &mdash;Tanaric 17:19, 12 January 2006 (UTC)


 * That's exactly what I was looking for. Thank you.
 * For the rest of you who commented on this issue. I come from a different tradition than most of you. I am an Arab and a Muslim. We have VERY different social behavior traditions. I think PanSola can relate the most because the Chinese people also have hightened social norms of honor and what is insulting. I have struggled with this in most on-line forums when dealing with Western people. Many have absolutely no problem to tell you off. And not because they themselves are without fault or perfect, but simply because they feel like it. Oddly enough, I do not have this problem living among Western people. The anonymity of the internet seems to embolden some people. Just like the amazing number of scammers in-game vs real life.
 * I have made it a rule in my life however never to accept this. I always fight back and I always resist and I always demand respectful treatment. Because I know that if we were in a company meeting and X got up and said "there goes Y with his usual high and mighty behavior telling the rest of us what to do" (when Y never made a single personal remark at X) that person would get a memo from HR if not get fired. So, I am comfortable in the knowledge that what I am asking for is not foreign or weird. I am simply being asked to accept that the Internet is a place where people can act that way and I am asked to get along with it. I refuse. --Karlos 01:32, 13 January 2006 (UTC)
 * I'll add an additional comment to your User Talk: page since it's not germane to the overall point, Karlos. I will say that if Tanaric does feel the need to ban someone, it's going to set precedent. By which I mean if Guy A gets banned, and then Guy B is an asshole to someone a week later, Guy B is getting banned too. This is a really significant thing. Everyone needs to walk easy. --Nunix 01:47, 13 January 2006 (UTC)